One of the questions I ask when I interview husbands is: When you were first married, which housekeeping responsibilities belonged to your wife?
Everyone I have interviewed so far says the same thing, "Everything."
A few of them said they helped a little, but reluctantly.
What does that tell us?
Perhaps it is that both husband and wife have the same idea in the beginning: they both believe that she should do it all. Perhaps this would be a good place to start. As soon as a couple decides to get married, they should discuss chores. She should admit that she plans to do it all, and he should admit that he plans to let her. Then they should both admit that their plan is unrealistic, and they should divide the chores, especially before the children come along.