Remarried

One of my clients who has been widowed for years is contemplating getting married.

She said the reason she is dragging her feet is because she doesn't know how her fiance feels about housework.

She said, "I loved my husband, but he never did anything around the house." Then she said emphatically, "I will NEVER go through that again, even if it means we never get married."

Heart

Well, my heart stumbled again. I thought it was fixed. I thought the pacemaker would make me a new woman.

Guess not!

Magical Words

First Seek to Understand/ Then to be Understood.

Exceptions to The Rule

Someone asked me yesterday if I believed that a couple should never get a divorce (no matter what).

I answered by saying there is a specific place in my book where I state, "If you are in an abusive marriage, You need to get out as soon as possible."

There are also other good reasons for divorce. However most marriages end because the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence. Most couples compare their mates bad qualities to someone elses good qualities. They usually discover (too late) that everyone has bad qualities Just in different areas.

If you just don't seem happy any more, stick around. Happiness does return, especially if you get professional help. Keep in mind; if you can't afford professional help, there is no way you will be able to afford a divorce.

When you have children you are going to be connected to your spouse for the rest of their lives. Perhaps you can choose to be connected under the same roof.

For the Children of Divorce.

I went to my granddaughters reception last night and as I was sitting at my table surrounded by loving family members, I spotted my ex-son-in-law at a table all alone. He was there for his daughter.

I felt so bad for him. I felt like leaving my table and joining him. However, at that moment another couple sat down next to him and began to visit with him. It was his ex-wife and her husband.

It did my heart good to see them get along for the sake of their children.