Someone asked me yesterday if I believed that a couple should never get a divorce (no matter what).
I answered by saying there is a specific place in my book where I state, "If you are in an abusive marriage, You need to get out as soon as possible."
There are also other good reasons for divorce. However most marriages end because the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence. Most couples compare their mates bad qualities to someone elses good qualities. They usually discover (too late) that everyone has bad qualities Just in different areas.
If you just don't seem happy any more, stick around. Happiness does return, especially if you get professional help. Keep in mind; if you can't afford professional help, there is no way you will be able to afford a divorce.
When you have children you are going to be connected to your spouse for the rest of their lives. Perhaps you can choose to be connected under the same roof.
This is a great post. I really enjoyed reading it. I stuck around in a marriage because I thought happiness would return.
ReplyDeleteLuckily I was smart enough to leave because he thought the grass was greener on the other side and alcohol and abuse was his thing.
This post gave me a little bit of reassurance that I didn't leave for inadequate reasons.
I look forward to reading more posts from you. Thanks so much!
-Stuffed Shelves
Elizabeth
I am so glad that you got some reassurance from my post. So happy to hear from you.
ReplyDeleteGood advice. I wish I hadn't waited so long to leave because the healing is harder the longer you stay. I still believe we could make it, but as long as he is still blaming me for his behavior none of the good times matter.
ReplyDeleteDon't be sorry that you waited so long. You can always say you did everything you could have done.
ReplyDeleteHopefully you will get stronger as you heal. My thoughts are compassionately with you!