Families

We had to travel out of town for another funeral. These trips are getting a bit ridiculous.

Losing a loved one is hard but the whole situation only reinforces my convictions of how important intact families are.

Get Some Guts

Many women who are otherwise assertive are reluctant to confront their husbands head on when it comes to domestic responsibilities.

WHY?

Tip of the Day

Marriage is like running a farm. You have to start all over every day. It takes serious managerial work to have a good marriage, and lots of it.

Anonymous

On Some Level?

Dr. John Gottman says, "on some level many men still consider housework to be a womens job."

On some level? This is not only true for men but women as well. We are all stuck in that outdated, monolithic conundrum.

America, let's start the evolutionary process of realizing we must all share responsibilities on the domestic front.

Wives won't always be angry at husband's and the husband won't always think his wife is a nag.

Expectations

When you are negotiating with your husband about what responsibilities he agrees on as his own, be sure to think about his strengths. Have him pick responsibilities that have challenges he knows he can meet.

Just like a job title. If a husband knows what his job description is up front, he is sure to have an easier time of it. Knowing and doing exactly what his brain has eventually trained him to do on a daily basis has to be much easier than regularly fighting with his wife because he has no idea what is expected of him.

Funeral

We traveled across the state to go to a funeral yesterday. The second family funeral in a month.

It just shows you that life is too short to sweat the small stuff.

No More Divorces

I had two teenagers in my salon today who were VICTIM'S of divorced parents.

One girl said, "I am never going to get a divorce. When I get married, I will do what ever it takes to make my marriage last."

The other girl said, "I am never going to get married in the first place until I know for sure he is the right one." then she added, "I would never put my kids through what I've been through."

They must have been discussing their painful existence before they entered my salon.

Woman's Conference

Well, the woman's conference is finally over. It was a lot of work, however, it was so much fun working with Susan Polster. She is certainly a burst of energy.

The way the economy is, the money was considerably tight but she pulled it off. It was a complete success.

Tip of The Day

John Gottman, PH.D. says that women find a man's willingness to share housework extremely erotic.

Speech

I'm finishing off my speech. Today is really the last day I can.

I work the rest of the week until the Women's Conference.

I will be sharing the stage with two other author's so the speech won't be as long this time.

Too Late

My heart broke for a young mother the other day.

She told me she was getting a divorce.

When I tried to talk her out of it she said that it wasn't her choice. It seems he has been having an affair and wants out so he can marry the other woman.

He refused counseling and refused to talk about it.

It's the same old story; he has too much time on his hands. She has none.

They are both in for troubled times because there are four little children involved.