Please Don't Divorce Him

I talked to a woman today whose sister was contemplating divorce. She had caught her husband cheating. She told me the woman's children and all of her friends were trying to talk her into leaving.

Her friends are not going to be the ones who have to suffer for his mistake; she is.

I asked this woman if her brother-in-law was an otherwise good husband and father. She answered very quickly that he was.

That is usually the criteria for choosing to stay. I hope she stays

Things We Can Change

One of my clients moved to Montana a while back. She returned to Salt Lake City where her mother lives for a visit. She called for an appointment. Salt Lake is 120 miles away so I knew she needed more than a haircut.

It turns out that she was thinking of leaving her husband so I canceled the entire morning and we had a little talk. The most important thing we discussed was how much her husband loved her children. I told her this was a big deal when considering the pros and con's of marriage. We discussed this at length. I told her that not only was it a wonderful aspect while married but it might be her biggest fight if she decided to divorce her husband.

After I discovered there was no abuse in the family I convinced her to accept the things she couldn't change in him, how to change the things that were possible and we dealt with the wisdom to know the difference.

She has a whole new outlook on life.

Phone Call From Reno

I got a phone call from Reno this morning from a client I once had. She heard I was getting my book published and she said, "Hurry I need it real bad. It's an emergency.

New Hard drive

Just when I need to keep in touch with my editor and my publisher, my computer conks out.

We took it to the Doctor and after a few days he discovered it needed a new hard drive.

Problem was no hard drives in this town. We made a late night trip to the city and now I am in business again.

Book Deal

Wednesday, I finally signed a contract to get my book published. I have worked so hard and I feel like I have paid my dues, as I should have.

Heal Thyself

I have spent so many years helping others through their grief when they have lost a loved one. One would think I would be prepared to deal with my own grief.

In retrospect, one thing I have to keep in mind is that a person has to go through the pain, as do I.

Another point is that it takes as long as it takes and we are just along for the painful ride.

Rest in peace, my Angel.

Another Bad Day

I had another bad day today. I can't believe my friend is gone.

She had Uterine Triple T Carcinoma Sarcoma Melanoma. It was a very rare cancer. Only 9 cases known in the world.

Her daughter said she had a special cancer because she was a special person. She was so right.