65 And Still Mourning For Her Dad

I talked to a lady yesterday who was excited about my book. We were talking about how divorce makes kids suffer.

I said, "The kids get lost in their parents depression until their straight A's turn to F's, they get on drugs, or contemplate suicide."

She said, "I am 65 years old. My parents divorced 30 years ago and it still affects me."

Tears were welling up in her eyes and she said, "My dad hasn't been to a birthday party, a graduation or anything since the divorce. I will mourn him til the day I die."

We all need to realize the ramifications of divorce before we make a life change.

Got your book

A girl called yesterday and said, "I got your book and I can't put it down it is so good. I think everyone who is getting married NEEDS to read this book"

I'm so glad it is finally out there.

First Signing

*I have been so busy lately I have been ignoring my blog. I had my first book signing yesterday at Costco in Orem. It went very well.

Happy Endings

In an earlier blog I wrote about a client who was headed to the divorce court. Her husband was the one who filed, however she was fed up too.

After we talked awhile about her possible inequities and his possible good points and me being the out-spoken hairdresser that I was, I let her know divorce shouldn't be an option, I waited with bated breath.

She came in yesterday to thank me.(it had been 3 months).

She said,"I didn't realize that I was half the problem until you told me." Then she said, "What a wake up call."

I asked how they were doing, and she said they both had a whole new lease on life and that they were very happy.

Please No Divorce

I had a client the other day who asked me about my book and when do I consider it appropriate to get a divorce.

I said, "As long as there is no abuse of any kind and kids are involved I think we owe it to our children to make our marriages work."

He said, "You mean a couple should stay in a marriage no matter how miserable they are?"

I said, "You want to see Miserable, then get a divorce and see what it feels like to fight to see your kids all the time." I added a few other down sides to divorce that were sure to happen.

We had a long talk and I think he saw the wisdom in Marriage counseling, trying to get that original feeling back, and I saw a light go off in his head when I mentioned that the reason she is so angry might be because she needs her loved one to share in her 79 responsibilities. It was comical, but I think he changed his thinking. Thank goodness.

Great Review

I got a 5 star review from a book reviewer in Malaysia. She said it was a self help treasure. A must have book.

What Are You Going to Live On?

I had a client in my salon yesterday who was determined to get a divorce.

She didn't work. She was having health problems. She had a daughter who was in and out of the hospital. It was her husband's stepchild.

After I discovered for sure that her husband wasn't abusive, was a good dad, but obviously ticked her off, I became ever the bearer of bad news.

I said, "Just because it says in the divorce papers that you get so much money for alimony, doesn't make it so." Then I asked, "What are you going to do for insurance?"

I filled her in on a few more facts and obviously, she is going to do what ever it takes to make her marriage work.

I wasn't fabricating anything. I have seen over and over, insurances on children being canceled, having to go back to court over and over to inforce any kind of payment, etc.. It's just not worth it.